Author Archives: Jenn
{update: aidan’s birthday wish}
The munchkin has blown me away. He’s raised over $1,000 in 2 weeks and was featured on NBC Miami. He is officially going for $5,000 in order to provide funds to build an entire well. It’s estimated that $5,000 will provide water for 250 people which is about 50 families or 1 community.
If you could share his story or just a link on your blog {maybe during your weekend links or a round-up} or even just retweet/like any of the related links, you’d be helping his cause out greatly. Almost every time someone new shares his links, he gets a donation.
I’ll be creating badges this week for those of you who are bloggers and want to place one on your sidebar.
In case you have no idea what I’m talking about you can read the first post here and see his campaign here.
Bang, Bang!
bangs -noun
a fringe of hair combed or brushed forward over the forehead
We may relate bangs {or fringe} with hipster girls and a bevvy of stylish french ladies, but it’s said that the hairstyle was popularized by a freed Arab slave living in 9th century Spain. Whoever thought of the style, I’m thankful to them. I’ve had bangs most of my life. It’s amazing how “done” they make you look. They are the key to lazy girl style. I’ve been sporting slightly modififed Jane Birkin fringe since last July, but might just go a bit heavier.
Tips on wearing bangs:
*Ask your stylist to make the sides longer and to give you some blending pieces around the face to help sweep them to the side if they get long or to pull down when you’ve got a messy up-do.
*If you decide to trim your own bangs at home, NEVER cut them wet.
*Use a midsized round brush to blow out the sides/blending area, holding the brush vertically and rolling backward. Just a quick blast of a dryer and one rotation should be enough to keep the sides from looking puffed up. {See Louise’s bangs on the last picture above.}
*Use a comb and point your drier’s nozzle downward on your bangs when drying.
*Use a little dry shampoo to give them mussed-up texture.
*I use an eyebrow razor to trim and texture my bangs between visits to the salon. Of course, you could use a real hair razor, but I don’t trust myself with something that sharp close to my face!
Have you had bangs? What’d you think of them?
{you are perfection}
Know that in this moment, you are complete. You live your life now, and it is not a race. Change happens now, if you so choose; not on January 1st or your __th birthday. Happiness happens now. You do not need to wait for Someday or Someone or Something. You are alive. Enjoy it.
{from the redwood forests}
Had my first visit to California over New Years, specifically San Francisco and Napa Valley. We stayed at the gorgeous, historic Berkley City Club the first night before we drove out to Napa, and the Napa River Inn, through a sweet deal on Jetsetter. We hit up Bouchon in Yountville, of course, followed by a little wine/beer tasting and an awesome twister party with a pirate piñata acquired at the local Target. {Oh, how I wish I’d gotten video of that!} With a hangover, we set out on a wine tour on the 31st and were dying by 2 p.m., but managed to make it out to a japanese resto down the street to ring in the new year. I also got to meet some delightful bloggers, Andi, Caitlin, and Melissa {who makes delicious granola bars, fyi}, in person. Yay!
Such good times, but my favorite had to have been our trip to Muir Woods. After a heartstopping drive up to the woods {wtf is with California and no guard rails on roads with steep cliffs?!}, we got to walk, in complete and total awe, amongst some of the tallest trees in the world… with the pirate and a giant red balloon I picked up on New Years Eve. Awesome.
Below is a gorgeous video I happened to find a few days after my return that depicts the breathtaking beauty of the redwoods better than any words I could ever type here.
{things my son says & does}
There are times where my son says or does something that makes my heart swell and my eyes tear. Like the first time he said “I love you” out of nowhere, or the time when, at age 4, I took him shopping with me and as I tried on a certain shirt, he looked at me and said “Mommy, you look beautiful.” From preschool, he’s sat and pondered God, mortality, equality, love, homelessness, hunger, and all sorts of other subjects we often assume are too deep for children to really think about on their own. When he walked in on me watching the war scene from Benjamin Button, where 15,000 people died in a day, he asked if it had actually happened. I told him it had and after a quiet moment he said, “Mommy, that’s a lot of people. A lot of souls broke that day and a lot of mommies were very sad.” {Ya, that made me cry.}
So, I shouldn’t have been surprised when the other night at the dinner table he informed me that he wanted to donate his birthday to charity:water.
Several weeks ago, ABC aired a special, Be the Change: Save a Life, profiling a handful of awesome organizations making a big impact in some seemingly simple and innovative ways. One of those charities was charity:water. Aidan was taken aback by the number of children who didn’t make it to age 5 because of a lack of clean water. He sat quietly making the comparison between the cost of providing water for one person and the cost of products we consume on a daily basis. He quietly went to bed that night, but never mentioned it again until Tuesday night. He sat at the table and weighed the options, thinking to himself out loud, eventually coming to the conclusion that a life is more important than any presents he would receive. Instead of presents, he would ask everyone to donate $8. {Bonus cuteness: When I asked him how much he wanted to raise, he said $5 million, but when that wasn’t an option on the site, he decided $800 was a good number.}
I think he’s pretty spectacular for having made this decision all on his own at the age of 7. If you think he is, too, please make a donation here or pass the link to someone else.
{somebody to hug}
We don’t touch each other enough.
We’re all getting more socially connected through technology, but we’re neglecting the benefits of real, physical contact. We used to make a point to congratulate friends in person, but not we’re more likely to shoot them a “Congrats!” on facebook. It’s a double-edged sword, since it helps us stay more connected while depriving us of essential physical contact.
I’m latina and live in South Florida, so touch is a part of greeting most people; we kiss cheeks and hug just about everyone. Still, because of technology, I have less of an opportunity to do so. Unrelated to technology, I made a self-observation recently: The older I get, the less I touch and hug people. I don’t know what to think of that change, other than that I think it kinda sucks. Of course, I hug and kiss my son constantly. I’m affectionate towards my very close friends and family, although less now than before. So, I’m making a point of randomly giving out warm hugs and pats on the back.
It’s such an awesome feeling to be welcomed openly with an embrace or to receive an unexpected rub on the back. I think we tend to get too busy to realize how much we’re missing it. {Granted, American culture has a different comfort zone than my own heritage and many other cultures, so if you are from one of those cultures you may or may not identify with this post.} Physical contact with another helps us process our connection to that person better. {There’s a reason why touching a person’s arm when talking to them will make them feel closer and find you more persuasive.} Research has shown that touch is an integral part of infant development and can increase survival rates in premature babies; talk about the power of touch! There’s even hugging meditation.
So, when was the last time you randomly hugged a friend? When was the last time you laid your hand on your mom or dad’s back just because you were near?
{around the web}
+The absolute best 404 error page ever
+ You can learn more about the Free Hugs Campaign here.
{silver belle}
Surrounded by tinsel and songs of silver bells, it’s only natural to think of donning shimmery things for the holidays. Can you ever go wrong with silver sequins? So often saved for the night, I prefer to toss a little sparkle on for the day, when the light can really play and dazzle.
1. giuda finds lulu, 2. stockholm streetstyle via lace & tea 3. dress, design, decor
{the beauty you can’t see: the most striking form of all}
This is a guest post by Ashley Ambirge, author of the famous Middle Finger Project and beautiful life expert. {Yes that’s her in the picture below.} I invited her to post on my blog to share her vision of living beautifully in hopes that her words will inspire you to live a life that you feel is beautiful. In light of her new book and the approaching new year, I believe this is perfect timing. You can visit Ash’s blog for more worl-rocking, soul-shakingly good inspiration and check out her new book here.
Typically, when we think of beauty we imagine the red-lipped woman who confidently struts down a New York sidewalk in her best heels, her long brown hair swaying back and forth behind her, along with all of the men she leaves speechless along her path.
Typically, when we think of beauty we imagine bold, breathtaking artwork that speaks to our souls in just the right way, that we just know we have got to have it.
Typically, when we think of beauty we imagine a vivid blue sky & a garden of bright orange tulips that run for miles beneath it.
Typically, when we think of beauty, we think of sexy aesthetics.
But there’s another kind of beauty—one that we often overlook because it isn’t tangible beauty, but rather, is a beauty that comes in the form of peace, of soul and of validating self-love.
It’s the beauty of living up to your potential.
So often, as we rush around in this life, trying to meet everyone’s demands, the days start to turn into weeks, the weeks into months, the months into years, and before we know it, we’ve woken up one day to wonder, “My goodness, where did the time go?”
It’s rare that we take a time out & ask ourselves hard, but valuable questions such as whether or not we actually are living up to our potential, or whether we’re just lettting life pass us by, and hanging on as tight as we can in the meanwhile.
But we should be asking ourselves these questions, because it’s only by asking the question that we can ever arrive at an answer.
And if the answer is no—that we aren’t living up to our own potential—then we’ve got to make some changes, and fast, because the beauty that lies behind our own potential is so well worth it, in every sense.
Because when we aren’t, we’re bound to experience prolonged feelings of anxiety, angst and disappointment—sometimes without ever knowing why.
And there’s nothing beautiful about that.
For me, I’ve been fortunate to have found my potential through creative entrepreneurialism—I write, I blog, I connect, and I make my living by doing so.
For years, I worked in corporate America, disillusioned with every single moment of it. I remember sitting at my desk at my very first job, looking out the window and thinking, “Is this it? Is this what I’ve worked my entire life for? This?”
But that’s where I thought my potential was. That’s where I had been taught my potential was. That’s where I had been falsely led to believe my potential was—through years of schooling, teachers, parents and the media, all telling me that I could do “be somebody” and do “big things.” Unfortunately, “being somebody” and doing “big things,” to them, meant surrendering myself to the system, working in the name of someone else’s profit, and generally doing what I was told, from now until the day I retire.
Looking back, I should have been insulted that this was all of the potential that anyone ever saw in me. Because to me, knowing what I do now, none of that is much of an accomplishment. That isn’t potential; that’s the equivalent of playing Monopoly everyday. You know the steps you have to take to succeed, and you take them without ever really thinking about it. At best, it’s a simulation.
I needed more from life.
I needed more from me.
I needed to start tapping into my own potential
if I ever hoped to do anything meaningful.
And as I started experimenting with what things made me feel ALIVE—what made my heart beat a little faster, what made me jump out of bed ready to throw punches at the world, and what made me proud of myself—I soon realized that writing & blogging & sharing my ideas with the world was that thing.
Admittedly, it took some time before I was able to accept this as a valid career path—as something that I could legitimately turn into a business, and learn to make a living doing what I loved—but once I wholeheartedly made the decision to go forth & give my all to the world, the world didn’t hesitate to reward me for doing so.
Ah, the beauty of potential.
I now look forward to each day, and can’t wait to begin “work.” I feel as if I truly am working toward my potential, and I feel as if I’ve just barely scraped the tip of the iceberg.
And it feels amazing.
This feeling is hard to describe—it’s a mix of passion, of pride, of excitement and of relief—but most of all, the best way to describe it is simply as beautiful.
There’s a powerful, untapped beauty that lies in striving to live up to one’s potential, and while we may not be able to see it, like we can a mysterious red-lipped woman, a piece of artwork or a field of orange tulips, that doesn’t matter because one thing is for sure: We can FEEL it.
And at the end of the day, that’s really what beauty comes down to in its most basic form, doesn’t it?
{simple pleasures: a little shimmer}
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